Now Samuel died, and all the Israelites met and had a time of sadness for him. - 1 Samuel 25:1 (NCV)
Life is seasonal. You know this full well. Sometimes we get good gifts that bring us joy, and sometimes we experience loss. We’ve all lost something or someone in life. Whether it was a friend, a family member, a dream, a favorite possession, a pet, or even a job, we all experience the pain of loss. How we treat that pain is very important. There are many different ways we react to pain – some of us try to run, some of us try to “stuff it,” some of us lash out in panic, anger, or tantrums, and some of us weep until it hurts. Regardless of what it is we lose, or how we initially react, the Bible teaches us the importance of mourning. Another rendering of this verse reads, “Now Samuel died, and all Israelites assembled and mourned for him.” Many of us fail to see the necessity of mourning.
Mourning is Biblical. Paul encouraged the Church in Rome to “Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn” (Romans 12:15). It’s hard for some of us to understand the value of mourning until we are in such a state. The comfort that comes when others mourn with us is inexplicable. The very act of joining in to mourn with another triggers a healing flow of God’s grace into our lives. Mourning isn’t a sign of weakness, it’s a sign of godliness.
Mourning brings closure. There is this thing we call the “grieving process.” It is a real and healthy process we must undertake whenever we experience loss. If we stop in the grieving process, or if we don’t even allow it to happen, it can be very damaging. Psychologically, you can get “stuck” in one of the stages of grief, and habitually feel or exhibit denial, anger, or depression. When its time to grieve, grieve.
Mourning is natural. Don’t ever buy the lie that mourning is “beneath you.” The fact is, not only is it biblical, it’s natural. Don’t fight the way we are “geared.” Allow the natural grieving process to take place. Men especially, don’t adhere to the false stigma that mourning is a sign of weakness. It’s not. For as Solomon said, “There is...a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance” (Ecc. 3:4).
Question of the Day:
When the time comes, do I take time to grieve?